There is a rising sentiment among gamers that I feel is problematic, and, well, downright shitty. And that’s entitlement.
People are very passionate and attached to some of their games. I feel like it happens significantly more with WoW than it does most other games. I understand that attachment. It’s been around for so long and it has become such a huge part of our lives. It’s sometimes how folks met their best friends, their significant others, and their families. It is important to many people.
The thing that folks are forgetting is that it is just a video game. It’s part of our lives, yes, but it is a consumer product at its core.
It’s a human thing to give sentimental meaning to innanimate objects. People do this with a ton of stuff, and is, in part, the basis for hoarding behavior (admittedly hoarding becomes about non-sentimental objects too). People attribute meaning to those objects and they have inflated value because of it. Other people see that movie ticket stub and for them, it’s trash. But for the person keeping it, it’s a date with a loved one, or a spark for other memories.
WoW is this for many people. There are fond memories as well as frustration and annoyance. The game, either through it’s story or the game itself, has sentimental value for each person who plays, in some form or another.
For some that sentimental value has turned into entitlement. And shitty assholic behavior.
I’m going to reiterate this because I feel as though people forget this point far too often. WoW is still, and will always be, a consumer product.
The nostalgic memories and the sentimental value of WoW will vary for everyone, because the experience of playing varies with everyone. That doesn’t diminish the value for one person and make it less or more than the value for another person. It just seems like oner person values it more than another person because of that sentiment.
And regardless of what value it holds for each person, the one thing that needs to seriously stop is the belief that Blizzard, it’s employees, and WoW owe people anything. The belief that they do is really just your shitty entitlement showing through. People need to let that nonsense go.
When was the last time a doctor told you that recovery from an illness was going to be 4-6 weeks, but it took longer than that? Did you show up at the doctor’s office, frothing at the mouth and screaming at them for not holding up to their “promise” that you’d recover in a certain time frame? Or how about when you went to take your car to the mechanic… and they said it would be ready in 2-3 hours. You come back after 2 hours and when your car isn’t ready, so you scream and yell at people? Do you threaten to just not pay them? Drag your car to the next mechanic that can fix it in 2 hours instead of 3 or maybe even 4 hours? Do you call them names? Threaten their lives? Exclaim how much they deserve to have horrible things happen to them?
It just feels like more and more the WoW playerbase feel entitled to content when they want it, and how they want it, and The Company Blizzard isn’t allowed to make any changes without first consulting the millions of players who all want, and value, different things about the game.
TL;DR: You’re not entitled to shit. You’re not entitled to shit. No matter WHAT you think, you’re not entitled to anything. So stop treating other people like they’ve personally offended you by doing their jobs. Hint: They didn’t.
This post is part of the #Blaugust series.
First, I wanna point out that I’m pretty far behind. About 5 posts worth. I keep telling myself that I’ll catch up by writing two posts/day for a few days and then I find myself falling further and further behind. I’m not so far behind that I can’t actually win this thing (you know, it’s just a contest against myself, right?), but at a certain point trying to catch up becomes daunting. And overwhelming.
I’m doing the best that I can to keep that evil little pain in the ass voice in my head that keeps saying it’s not worth the effort to shut the hell up.
I’ve been noticing a trend lately. It’s kind of a human failing, to be quite honest. It’s a sense of entitlement that manifests itself in really shitty and poor behavior. Not just in general, but often turned and aimed at others. This shitty and terrible behavior is usually excused by something and it’s really those excuses that are becoming problematic.
There are some mental and physical disabilities that manifest itself in behaving badly. I know this to be true. I also know that sometimes a person can’t actually control these things, but that’s not really what I’m wanting to write about today.
Today I would like to discuss the behaviors of people who are otherwise healthy and don’t have these illnesses that make them spout out really horrible and terrible things at people with no care for the consequences.
I’m talking about entitled shitlord assholes.
They come in all different shapes and sizes and this doesn’t seem to afflict any one gender more than another (though I would posit a guess that it is likely to happen with men acting badly more often than women). It comes down to just being an entitled jerk. People believe that they are entitled to something and when denied this something, believe they are then allowed to act like total fuckwad toolbags toward anyone and everyone they deem worthy of abuse and harassment.
We see a lot of this in a certain “movement”.
I am all for promoting positivity and shining a light on the good things within the various online communities I’m a part of, but I also feel that denying the fact that bad stuff happens is unfair to those dealing with bad stuff… but I’ll likely write about that another day. Often when the community and it’s members jump into the swirling pool of bullshit and nonsense, people just kind of ignore it. I’ve seen it happen over and over again over years of being on twitter and involved in different communities. I’ve lost friends over it. I’ve been on the receiving end of it. I’ve watched people I care about get shit flung their way for no reason other than where they work or what they’re supposed job title is (or even affiliations).
The thing is, there’s always an excuse. There’s always some excuse that people can come up with for being an awful human being, on the rather rare occasion that they’re called out on being a terrible human being. People, mind you, that are otherwise decent most of the time, quickly turn into the biggest asshole when they believe they have been slighted in some way.
There are those people who believe their words are just “things said on the internet” and thus “shouldn’t be taken to seriously”. There’s no understanding or belief that there are consequences for those words, or real-world affects of being a total dickbag. I mean, how often do we think “It’s just the internet. It should be expected.” and brush off the behavior as if it’s something we should just accept as part of being in an online community of any kind.
The thing is, it shouldn’t be this commonplace. It shouldn’t be the norm. There are ways in which people can express frustration and even anger without it turning into a pissing contest of who can insult the other more harshly or more quickly.
And before anyone decided to say something like “Don’t be so sensitive” or “Just ignore it” or “People are allowed to be angry/not angry”, I would like to point out that these are all methods of controlling and dictating how another person should feel or react. People have this belief that they know better about how to deal with things and assume that it’s the magical solution that others should adopt. They also feel as though people who choose other means of coping are somehow, inherently, wrong in their choices. And let’s be honest, there’s a small part of us that feels like we know what’s best. But that’s not true. We really don’t. I know I don’t.
Any time voicing your “opinion”, “concern”, or “idea” involves the attacking of another person, your opinion, concern, or idea is hugely diminished and less likely to be heard or paid attention to. Because your right to have your opinions, concerns, or ideas heard ends when you infringe on another person’s right to be treated with decency and respect.
There’s more to this story than meets the eye, but it mostly comes down to the fact that empathy, and empathetic engagement, are learned behaviors. Ones that people have to choose to want to learn and be better about. This isn’t about being nicey-nice and pretend like bad things never happen, but understanding that being a fucking asshole toward another person most certainly effects them, even if you don’t see them.
Stop being dicks to each other. Stop believing that you are the only person with the right idea. Stop believing that you speak for the masses, when you really, truly, only speak for yourself. And for the love of all things holy (priest), stop acting like your mental illness, physical illness, or disability is an excuse for treating other people like crap. It’s not.
That’s just you being a dick.
This post is part of the #Blaugust series.